We all experience times of tension where our hearts and minds cannot focus because of the anxiety that we have allowed to build up. The fact that is it our own doing, does not make the situation any easier to live with. There are not many of us who are self-aware enough to recognize the signs and will be able to straighten ourselves out before the problem is blown all out of proportion. The anguish can be forged in such a subtle way that it is thought to be under control. Then one day . . . BAM! It hits one like a ton of bricks and normal functioning becomes impossible to cope with.

The good news is, de-stressing is absolutely attainable. And reversing the self-inflicted damage can be accomplished with a few relatively uncomplicated solutions: Deep breathing is always helpful. If you have ever watched any sporting event, you will see athlete’s doing this while awaiting the games to begin. They know the value of oxygenation throughout the bloodstream.

Physical activities can reduce the dread one has become lost in. Simply going for a leisurely walk helps to clear the mind of clutter and allows for the time to allocate an orderly design of priorities. This alone will bring peace to the otherwise ‘monkey mind’ that has taken over.

Meditation and calming the mind, is extremely beneficial. This is not an easy road for everyone but giving it a try is well worth the effort. Remaining quiet by clearing the mind will allow for serenity to descend upon the body, mind and spirit. A great weight can be lifted naturally leaving one with less nervous exhaustion from prolonged overthinking.

Listening to music, engaging in art projects or participating in whatever enjoyable endeavour takes your fancy, are never a waste of time. The things we have an affinity for are the very stuff that makes each life an individual adventure. It is up to us to follow those distinctive paths to find the tranquility within.

Do whatever it takes to remove yourself from the worries of life and relaxation will surely follow.



Destiny as the dictionary says ‘is the predetermined course of events ; or fate’.  It also claims ‘to be regarded as power’.  I believe that one’s fate is not predetermined at all.  It becomes a reality based on actions taken.

The people who act without forethought are a rare breed.  For the most part, experiences are directed towards a desired end.  Whether consciously or not.  We all have a say in our destinies and therein lies the power.

There is a romantic notion about setting off on a quest to find a purpose.  The lucky ones already know which way their fate lies.  Some know it and opt not to follow.  Surely, that will lead to a less than stellar life.  Yet, it must be exciting when one’s mission is stumbled upon so long as the ‘stumbler’ follows that path and reaches unexpected heights.

No matter the circumstances of our lot in life accepting the fortune handed out through the sweat of one’s brow must be acknowledged.  Good or bad, affirming the situation will lead to choices.  Either cease the exploration or continue down another course.

When such options present themselves it begs the question ‘what is my true destiny?’  Which brings about the belief that we all have a say in our future.  Predetermination cannot apply when there is free will to choose where we desire our lives to go.

So, destiny becomes the sum total of the alternatives one chases in an attempt to seek happiness.  The roads followed throughout our lives are the end result that is sought.  In other words, ‘our destiny’.  It may take an entire span of life to realize that one’s purpose has been fulfilled.

The future can not be predicted and that is what makes it so frightening and exciting at the same time.  People have been paralyzed with fear regarding the road ahead.  Fear not!  It may be part of your destiny.  However, it does not have to stifle you forever.  Seek out true happiness and the determination to succeed will propel you to your destiny.