Watching a beloved parent deteriorate is the saddest thing a child can go through, regardless of age. For those of us lucky enough to have a mother and father that were and are greatly loved becoming the caregiver for them is a type of payback for all they have done for their children. Despite the fact, that some of those kids are totally disinterested in helping parents, in their time of need, as it will disrupt their lives. Usually, one child will step up.
It tends to fall to the least selfish. The one who has the wherewithal to put that parent’s welfare first. This can cause rifts within the family dynamic as there is no fairness when it comes to taking on these responsibilities. Yet, to cherish every moment spent with a loved one in their twilight years is definitely a blessing. It can be hard; yes as health issues will be a constant challenge.
Even with the ravages of dementia, in its many forms, tough times should be treasured. While this disease can rob some of their natural characteristics, there can be fleeting glimpses of the people they used to be. This can be the most heartening of circumstances. Little victories become vast triumphs.
Everyone handles this phase of life in a different manner. Some will ignore it. Some will embrace it. Like everything else you get out of it what you put in. The last resort will be to make the most difficult of decisions; to have them put into a home. There are so many emotions that will play on one’s mind as to what the best choice will be. The guilt associated with shoving a mother or father away, out of sight, simply for convenience, can be devastating.
What it all comes down to, is giving and doing your best for another. An elderly parent needs the same love and care as the tiniest baby. Please, be kind to the vulnerable. Think about what it best for everyone involved. We shall all be old one day (if we are lucky) let us help each other.